Sunday, August 15, 2010

A Peaceful Heart

God is amazing with the peace He gives us and the way He has a plan for us from the very beginning.

At the end of next month, my husband and I will be attending a (free) orientation at a very well known adoption agency. More specifically, we will be attending the Domestic Infant Adoption Orientation class and we could not be more excited. I am still looking into agencies and possibly adoption attorneys but I thought I would get the ball rolling and see what this particular agency has to say. I've always heard about them on the show Adoption Stories and they were also featured on 16 and Pregnant. I've read about them and researched their site and emailed back and forth with a lady who works there.

Kyle and I told our parents this weekend. My younger sister already knew because I had been talking with her about it. I was very hesitant to tell my parents because I thought they would say that we are too young and crazy for doing this at our ages. I could not have been more wrong and I am so thankful for that. I was nervous about telling them all day yesterday so finally, as I was helping my Mom with the dishes, I said, "Ya'll will never believe where we are going next month." My dad responded with, "Alaska? Boston? Charleston?" It was kind of funny but very appropriate because Kyle and I have been talking about going to either Alaska or Boston next year and Charleston sometime this year. I just laughed and said no and told them I knew they would say we were young and crazy. I then told them we would be attending an orientation on adoption. I really had prepared myself for words I didn't want to hear. Don't get me wrong - my parents are the most supportive people on this planet and for that I am truly grateful. I consider my parents to be the best parents on this planet. I just thought they would say with me being 25 and Kyle being 24, we had many years ahead of us to still try and have children. I had mentally prepared what I would say to them. Well, I didn't have to say any of the mentally prepared statements. They had some questions and of course my dad brought up the cost factor, "I have a friend who adopted from Guatemala a few years ago and it cost him over $26,000." I let them know we are currently only interested in domestic adoption. They took it well. A few hours later my mom and I went walking and she brought it up and had a few questions. When I told her how relieved I was that they were so encouraging, she said of course they were going to be encouraging. She then said that she always watches me and my husband with our niece and just knows that we are more than ready to be parents and will be wonderful parents to a lucky baby. I was really happy she said that. She did ask what would happen if I got pregnant during the adoption process (like, if I get pregnant and we have already been matched with a baby). I told her we would continue on with the adoption and look at it as God's will for us.

I am so thankful to know that we have our parents support.

We are prepared for what people are going to say about it...and honestly, we don't care about the negativity. Sure, it might hurt a little but we feel like God has been saying that it's our time to become parents and we couldn't be happier. I know we still have so much to learn about adoption.

4 comments:

  1. Awesome! Keep me posted. And while those numbers they'll tell you about the costs of this and that are overwhelming, try to remember that where God leads you, He'll provide for you to be there. There are grants, you can fund-raise, and God will teach you about trusting Him. I'm so excited for you.

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  2. Thank you so much, Kristin! I am just so excited that I can hardly stand it. That is very true about the money aspect of it. It can be so overwhelming but I know it will be worth every penny. I can't wait to see what He has in store for us!

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  3. I'm so excited for both you and Kyle and will continuing praying that things work out in a way that brings you both the happiness you want. If you get negative responses, just look at that as God's test for you, reinforcing that this is what you want and this is the right time. He is making sure that you've looked at this from all angles and if you can talk your way around any negativity, then you know it is right for you. Good luck! Can't wait to hear how the orientation goes! Remember that blog I sent you a couple of months ago with the father writing about adoption? They had a "Donate Now" link on their sidebar of their blog and someone donated the entire cost of their legal fees after he mentioned how expensive it was. You never know who is reading, who cares about your issue or just adoption in general and has a few extra dollars that they're just looking for a cause to give to. We have so many people who were adopted as children through our agency who now want to give back in a way to honor their own life stories. So...add a Donate button! LOL

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  4. That's really something to think about, Melanie! I still check that blog you sent me from time to time to see if there are any updates. I really like reading that blog! Also, I want to email that lady at your work who is in charge of adoptions...I have her email address but I forgot her name!

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