Unbelievable

Last Saturday I had my individual interview with our social worker. I met her at a tea room and I have to say I really enjoyed having lunch with her. It's so easy to talk to her and after we finished my interview questions(which was nothing to sweat!), we just sat and talked. She and her husband adopted their three year old son when he was a newborn and they are in the process of adopting a soon-to-be-born little girl. It was nice just talking with her and being able to ask her questions about adoption laws and about her experience(s) with adoption. Kyle's interview is this Friday at her office and he is pretty nervous though he has nothing to worry about.

Some people just don't get it. I am understanding of the fact that the majority of people (who have not researched adoption) don't really understand how harsh their words can come out. I do understand because adoption can be really overwhelming to read about and even understand. I get that. What I don't get is how some people just don't think about the words they are saying. When I say I no longer sit and cry and think about my miscarriage I mean that...I know it happened for a reason and I am so thankful I am at the point where I can say it with a smile on my face. So when people say ignorant comments (sometimes I wonder if it's really fair of me to use the word ignorant), while it does not bother me inside of my heart and make me sad, it makes me annoyed with them that they would be so insensitive.

I won't go into great detail on here about how rude and insensitive some people are but I will say this. Adoption is more than just a thing...it's more than just "the adoption thing". Also, please never tell me that I have the right idea about doing the adoption thing because I will never have to get pregnancy stretch marks. I could go on and on but I think I better stop right here. It just boggles my mind at the things some people say. Also, know that I am not envious of pregnant people and I probably won't think you're being funny or cute when you tell me that I shouldn't be envious of you and in fact you are the one who is envious of me because I won't have stretch marks or because I don't have to wait around 9 months to birth a baby. Also, it's really hurtful when people use the terms "real" child and "natural" child. An adopted child is very real and is very natural. Okay, I'm done. I am going to stop now.

Sorry. I just really had to get that out.

On a positive note I just have to say I am extremely excited for January to come. January is when we go active with the consultant. It really warms my heart to know that my husband is just as excited as I am. The other day he asked me if it is normal for people to have a party when they bring their son or daughter home. I told him it's definitely not unheard of. He said he wants to get a couple of chicken nugget trays and have our family members over for an adoption celebration party.